I am reading this on a tiny phone, scrolling down and seeing tiny pieces at a time. When this photo came into view, I reacted: "Wow, she looks beautiful!" and then I felt a sad recognition as I read your reaction. I do the same thing to myself, and it is nothing more than carrying on my legacy of childhood abuse. Never mind that I would never talk to anyone else this way!
Sometimes, I say to myself: "Today, I must say to my best friend everything I say to myself. I have to tell her she's fat, ugly, unappealing - everything I say to myself." The thought of treating someone I love that way is so appalling that it does help me to remember: I certainly don't deserve that.
And neither do you, Lisa. You are amazing and wonderful and brilliant and beautiful. Thank you so much for this blog.
Dedicated to helping people live healthier, happier lives, Lisa Sargese is a college professor, certified hypnotist and trained qigong therapist. Lisa speaks and vlogs on overcoming overeating, life after weight loss surgery, recovery for daughters of narcissistic mothers, healing from depression, the mind-body connection, spirituality, and achievement. In 2009, she received the Mirror Mirror Award for her work in body positivity and eating disorder recovery. In 2012 she was honored with the Tikkun Olam Award for her interfaith work. She teaches religion and psychology at universities in her home state of New Jersey.
Contact Lisa: BelovedIdeas@gmail.com
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I am reading this on a tiny phone, scrolling down and seeing tiny pieces at a time. When this photo came into view, I reacted: "Wow, she looks beautiful!" and then I felt a sad recognition as I read your reaction. I do the same thing to myself, and it is nothing more than carrying on my legacy of childhood abuse. Never mind that I would never talk to anyone else this way!
Sometimes, I say to myself: "Today, I must say to my best friend everything I say to myself. I have to tell her she's fat, ugly, unappealing - everything I say to myself." The thought of treating someone I love that way is so appalling that it does help me to remember: I certainly don't deserve that.
And neither do you, Lisa. You are amazing and wonderful and brilliant and beautiful. Thank you so much for this blog.
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