Monday, October 20, 2014

Hynosis for relaxation and sleep

Use the audio on this video to
help you relax, unwind, and fall asleep!

Follow the sound of my voice. Imagine the ideas I describe to you.
The more closely you listen and imagine, the better it works.

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Over a quarter million

At this very second I am only 9 watches away
from hitting
330,000 views on my YouTube channel!

Give a watch, would ya?

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Sunday, October 19, 2014

not every duckling

A wise sifu told me that
I would be losing people from my life,
not from death,
but from their unwillingness or inability to
progress spiritually.

This didn't sit right with me.

Shouldn't I be like the mother duck and set an example
for people to follow?

I guess not every duckling follows the mother duck.

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Saturday, October 18, 2014

a little something every day

Since I just ordered 750 business cards with a link to my
"Daily Blog"
and I link to my "Daily Blog" on every one of my YouTube videos
I will still put up something on a daily basis.

I might use a quote or a pic or just short blog,
and sometimes I'll rant,
and sometimes I'll post my latest video,
but I'll do a little something.

That's how I roll.

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Friday, October 17, 2014

Books and website

I've been reading Matt Stone's book
Kill Your Blog: 12 Reasons Why You Should Stop F#$%ing Blogging!
(click here)

and he's right.
It's time to stop Blogging and get my books written.
The time it's taking me to blog every day could be time spent getting my book(s) done.
This blog has become disorganized and unwieldy. People coming to this blog for the first time don't know if it's a weight loss blog, a motivation blog, a law of attraction blog, or what. By dividing my writing up into books, it makes the information and stories more themed and accessible. I need to turn my blogging time into book writing time.

I've been making my videos at least 5 times per week. I'll keep this blog alive at least for a little while to post my videos.
I'm up to almost 330,000 view on my YouTube channel (click here) and have  over 550 subscribers.
Thanks for watching :-)

I make videos on three themes
Prof Lisa says - mini lectures on life, religion, and personal development
Weight Loss Surgery - complications and regain after wls
Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother - naming my experiences so I can clear and move on

I don't want to stop blogging forever. I don't know that I even CAN stop blogging because it's such a habit for me..The end of daily blogging is on the horizon. It's coming soon. The end of this blog as a daily blog is coming very soon.

I've written enough to make 10 books or more. I have to do what's best for me and for my readers.

We'll see how I make the transition.

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Thursday, October 16, 2014

No evil people just evil actions

"When someone tells me that my actions and intentions 
aren’t in alignment, 
or if they tell me that I’ve done something  
that caused them pain and/or difficulty, 
I try to make the first thing out of my mouth 
“thank you for telling me.”
 I know that it can be a really difficult thing
 to call someone out 
I find that thanking them for it 
helps me keep from going into a defensive reaction. 
I might not agree with what they say, 
or there might be a misunderstanding, 
they might be 100% right. 
It doesn’t matter- 
I thank them for telling me."
- Dr. Charlie Glickman

Not everyone will thank you when you
call them out on not practicing what they preach.

I can't change that about other people,
but I can change myself.

That's the beauty of this life. We have the ability to change. We can choose to act differently than we have in the past. We can choose to respond rather than react.

I believe we are innately good. I believe we have potential to  heal and be better. Past behaviors don't have to dictate future actions.

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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

when forgiveness is a burden

When people tell you to "forgive and forget" be sure you're ready.  Before you try to do what popular culture tell us to do in countless memes and pity aphorisms, check in with yourself. 
I'm not saying to dwell in victimhood for the rest of your life, but I do suggest you find an empathetic listener, counselor, or support group so you can speak about your experiences.
Not everyone will encourage you to tell your story.
You don't have any obligation to stay silent because others are uncomfortable with your experiences.  

Once you feel your experiences have been given worth
by being heard non-judgmentally then you can do the difficult work of letting go.
Let go when you're ready, not on any one else's time table or within any one else's comfort level.

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Tuesday, October 14, 2014


Just notice how being a person is like a yo-yo:
it goes up and down all the time.
When praised, you feel you’re wonderful;
you are wonderful. ...
You win the lottery and you’re elated;
then somebody steals all the money and you’re suicidal.
The personality is like that; it’s completely dependent.
You can be hurt terribly on a personal level,
or you can be exhilarated.
People find you just the most wonderful, thrilling,
exciting personality, and you feel happy...
This is how untrustworthy the self is.
We can rise to great altruism
and then sink to the most depraved depths
in just a second.
It’s a totally untrustworthy state to put your refuge in,
being a person of any kind... 
a genuine refuge is not dependent on praise and blame,
success or failure.
There are various methods of training ourselves
to stop the thinking mind.
One kind, for example, is a Zen koan or self-inquiry practice
such as asking “Who am I?”
... stop the thinking mind so that we begin to notice
the pure state of attention,
where we are not caught in thinking and the assumptions of a self,
where there is just pure awareness.
- from The Problem of Personality
by Abbott Ajahn Sumedho

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