Sunday, January 25, 2015

never let go

This picture
hurts my heart.

Did I lose a son in a past life? A little brother?

I wanted him to hold my hand forever and never, never, never let go.

Then, something happened.
All my cats are male, you know.

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Saturday, January 24, 2015

no lie

Lying to others
is harmful.

Lying to yourself
is worse.

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Friday, January 23, 2015

second agreement

That second one?
It says "Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering."

Now flip it.

"Others shouldn't take anything you do or say personally. Nothing you do is because of them. What you say and do is a projection of your own reality, your own dream. When others are immune to your actions, they won't be the victim of needless suffering."

That person who you think is the cause of your emotional suffering? It's not them. You're using them as a projection screen. Whatever injury you endured as a very young child, whether it was trauma or lack of nurturing, you are projecting that hurt onto your latest projection screen, that is whichever person you believe to be causing all your desperately hurt feelings, your longing, your pain.

This doesn't apply to all situations so don't waste your thinker on coming up with "Yeah, but what about___" scenarios. Don't dodge the lesson by finding exceptions.

I'm talking about whoever is the object of your longing, boo-hooing, idealization, etc. It might even be a partner who is problematic. You found just the right person to cause you just the right suffering so that you can recreate the hurt from your early life. Maybe you want a do-over to try to correct what you endured as a child. Maybe you have a template of suffering so rigid it seems that you can't undo it.

I think we can. I think we can rework our template. We don't have to be stuck in our suffering.

Awareness is key.

We have to be aware of our own projections and stop blaming people outside ourselves for our chronic pain/longing.

It's us, not them.

The more questions answered about self, the more aware we become, and the more free we can be.

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Thursday, January 22, 2015

never give up

People think that giving up is some grand thing that happens with great fanfare. Or people think giving up is letting one's self die.

It's worse.

Giving up is giving up on your dreams. Giving up is opting to do the safe thing that will lead to something "normal" rather than the risky thing that will lead you to a miracle.

Giving up is choosing to do just enough rather than go all out.

Giving up is shrugging and saying, "Well, I tried" and taking the oh-well route of the folks who said you better have a Plan B.

Giving up is letting pessimism win.

Giving up is letting illness take you down while your gift remains unexpressed.

Giving up is breaking your promises because they just became too hard to keep.

Don't give up on your dreams.

Don't give up on love.

Don't give up on the possibility of miracles.

I promise I won't.

I won't go quietly into any dark night.

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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

change your template

I learned from Life Strategist Shari Schrieber, MA of that poor self worth forms a "template" that we carry into all areas of our lives. This template can be responsible for people showing up in negative ways. This is how painful patterns manifest in our lives.

We need to change our template by changing our core beliefs about the love and respect we deserve!

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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

calendar quote

I was holding it upside down in
that first picture!
Ok, got it...

I walk into my classroom for the first night of class (Women in Religion) and a page out of a desk calendar was at my teaching station. The date is September 15 2014 and it says,

The foes from whom we should
pray to be delivered
are our own
and follies;
and against these
there is always need
that we war.
- Theodore Roosevelt

Our demons are inside cleverly disguised as other people. It is our mind that must be adjusted, not those outside of us. A clear mind and a strong heart make other people show up as helpers not enemies.

Everything is working in our favor to bring us closer to illumination.
Believe that and it is so.

That is all.

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Monday, January 19, 2015

only failures

We can avoid pain
by avoiding taking risks,
but the pain of regret
is even worse than the pain of failure.

The pain of staying still and being all stiff and miserable
is still pain.

May as well fail forward.

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