I love this post.. like you I am hyper sensitive to any kind of disrespect or abuse...and at 50 have finally learned to say NO...
And in my opinion I don't think you see ALL disagreement as bulliing... I think should the difference of opinion be put in a mature adult fashion, spoken not to illicit drama but to engage in discussion then there would be no problem... its when the other person first wants to start the crap, and then wont let it die...that you see it for what it is. bullying, and you are well aware of the difference... (stupid question... what is a troll?)
Hi Debra!! In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum...A person who posts on a blog thread, in the guise of "concern," to disrupt dialogue or undermine morale by pointing out that posters and/or the site may be getting themselves in trouble, usually with an authority or power. They point out problems that don't really exist. The intent is to derail, stifle, control, the dialogue. It is viewed as insincere and condescending.
Wow, that lady was off the wall. She had no reason to post the disagreeable response on your wall. I think that you did the right thing, and I like the idea about your FB wall being your lawn. Not only that, I think her original comment is odd...? Writers inspired them? Huh? And of course they are necessary, but it's not national writers and poets day! Crazy. Anyway, just thought I'd comment.
Wow, that lady was off the wall. She had no reason to post the disagreeable response on your wall. I think that you did the right thing, and I like the idea about your FB wall being your lawn. Not only that, I think her original comment is odd...? Writers inspired them? Huh? And of course they are necessary, but it's not national writers and poets day! Crazy. Anyway, just thought I'd comment.
I think the whole talk about if the lady's opinion was appropriate or not, is besides the point. The interesting part here is that YOU shouldn't have to think what is appropriate to answer. You should be you, no matter how it might look in others eyes. YOU are important. Standing up for YOU is important, no matter what people think. If you think a scolding is important for you, then guess what? IT IS! Playing someone other than YOU is where the real drama begins..
Dedicated to helping people live healthier, happier lives, Lisa Sargese is a college professor, certified hypnotist and trained qigong therapist. Lisa speaks and vlogs on overcoming overeating, life after weight loss surgery, recovery for daughters of narcissistic mothers, healing from depression, the mind-body connection, spirituality, and achievement. In 2009, she received the Mirror Mirror Award for her work in body positivity and eating disorder recovery. In 2012 she was honored with the Tikkun Olam Award for her interfaith work. She teaches religion and psychology at universities in her home state of New Jersey.
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Oh the drama! Her ego couldn't take it.
I love this post.. like you I am hyper sensitive to any kind of disrespect or abuse...and at 50 have finally learned to say NO...
And in my opinion I don't think you see ALL disagreement as bulliing... I think should the difference of opinion be put in a mature adult fashion, spoken not to illicit drama but to engage in discussion then there would be no problem... its when the other person first wants to start the crap, and then wont let it die...that you see it for what it is. bullying, and you are well aware of the difference... (stupid question... what is a troll?)
Hi Debra!! In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum...A person who posts on a blog thread, in the guise of "concern," to disrupt dialogue or undermine morale by pointing out that posters and/or the site may be getting themselves in trouble, usually with an authority or power. They point out problems that don't really exist. The intent is to derail, stifle, control, the dialogue. It is viewed as insincere and condescending.
Wow, that lady was off the wall. She had no reason to post the disagreeable response on your wall. I think that you did the right thing, and I like the idea about your FB wall being your lawn. Not only that, I think her original comment is odd...? Writers inspired them? Huh? And of course they are necessary, but it's not national writers and poets day! Crazy. Anyway, just thought I'd comment.
Wow, that lady was off the wall. She had no reason to post the disagreeable response on your wall. I think that you did the right thing, and I like the idea about your FB wall being your lawn. Not only that, I think her original comment is odd...? Writers inspired them? Huh? And of course they are necessary, but it's not national writers and poets day! Crazy. Anyway, just thought I'd comment.
I think the whole talk about if the lady's opinion was appropriate or not, is besides the point. The interesting part here is that YOU shouldn't have to think what is appropriate to answer. You should be you, no matter how it might look in others eyes. YOU are important. Standing up for YOU is important, no matter what people think. If you think a scolding is important for you, then guess what? IT IS! Playing someone other than YOU is where the real drama begins..
Hey thanks for the support! Totally just swiped a line for my FB status :-)
Keep on rocking Lisa ;-)
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